As I spend one of the hardest weekends ever saying goodbye to a very special person, I think about depression and bereavement.
Grief is different for everybody but we will all suffer it, whether that is crying or not crying or losing our appetite or sleep or energy. It also shares many of its symptoms with depression.
For some, grief lasts longer and some go into a depression; for that reason I would like to remind us all to be kind to each other, understanding, be there for the grieving person, help them with the little things, if they want to talk let them talk and if they don't, don't force it. And for those grieving, know you'll never forget them, it's ok to do the things you love even though the other person can't anymore, it's ok to feel ok one day and not the next day, it's ok to cry and also ok to not cry, let yourself go through the emotions of anger guilt etc but don't beat yourself up, there is nothing you could have done. They loved you and you loved them. And most important of all, if you can't shake the guilt, anger, can't get your appetite back and still suffer from insomnia, seek help, speak to your family and friends and don't be ashamed to ask for help.
It's a suffering I wish we never had to live.
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